“Anger is like a red light flashing on the dash of a car. It indicates that something needs attention.”
The dictionary describes anger as “a strong passion or emotion of displeasure, and usually antagonism, excited by a sense of injury or insult. Anger is a very strong emotion that can be either harnessed positively or negatively utilized.
Martin Luther King Jr. was rageful towards racial segregation & discrimination; he used his anger to lead a movement and dreamt of a nation where people would be judged not by the color of their skin but by the content of their character; that dream led to the United States of America to elect the first African American President four decades later.
The same anger drove Adolf Hitler Nazi regime to initiate world war II, the holocaust, genocide of about 6 million Jews and millions of other victims whom he and his followers deemed Untermenschen (subhumans) or socially undesirable.
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin
In his book, Anger: Taming a powerful emotion, American author and radio talk show host, Dr. Gary Chapman points out that Anger can be a powerful and positive motivator, useful to move us toward loving action to right wrongs and correct injustice—but it also can become a raging, uncontrolled force.
“Anger is directed inwardly when you bottle it up rather than expressing it constructively to others. Anger is directed outwardly when you criticize or attack other people.”
- “Anyone can become angry—that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way—that is not within everyone’s power, and that is not easy.”- Aristotle
- “A man is about as big as the things that make him angry.” – Winston Churchill
- “People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.” – Will Rogers
- “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
- “Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.”- Dr. Joyce Brothers
- “How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.” – Marcus Aurelius
- “There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.” – Plato
- “When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.” -Thomas Jefferson
- “Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind.” – Robert Green Ingersoll
- “If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”- Chinese Proverb
- “Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge.”- Edward Bulwer-Lytton
- “Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.”– Maya Angelou
- “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” –Buddha
- “At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.” – Marshall B. Rosenberg
- “Anger is a valid emotion. It’s only bad when it takes control and makes you do things you don’t want to do.”- Ellen Hopkins
- “It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.” –William Arthur Ward
- “It is a waste of energy to be angry with a man who behaves badly just as it is to be angry with a car that won’t go.”- Bertrand Russell
- “Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one.” – Benjamin Franklin
- “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” –Ambrose Brierce
- “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” –Buddha
- “When anger rises, think of the consequences.” – Confucius
- “Anger is a momentary madness, so control your passion or it will control you.” –G. M. Trevelyan
- “The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk.”-Jacqueline Schiff
- “The longer I live, the more I observe that carrying around anger is the most debilitating to the person who bears it.” – Katharine Graham
- “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”-Mark Twain
- “There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.” –Patrick Rothfuss
- “There was never an angry man that thought his anger unjust.” – Saint Francis De Sales
- “Anger is like a storm rising up from the bottom of your consciousness. When you feel it coming, turn your focus to your breath.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
- “It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.”- Wayne Dyer
Never forget what someone says to you when they’re angry because that is when the truth comes out.
All the best in your quest to get better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.