Optimism is an inclination to put the most favorable construction upon actions and events or to anticipate the best possible outcome. Optimism is from French optimisme, from Latin optimum  whuch means ‘best thing’. It is the abilty to see the best in every situation and making the best of the moment. An optimist sees the cup as half full while the pessimist sees the cup as half empty. Life can be tough and challenging, it is easy to stay optimistic when things are going right, the real test of your optimism is to stay strong when things are not going right.

Helplessness is the belief that there is nothing that anyone can do to improve a bad situation (such as being diagnosed with an illness). In many ways, then, helplessness is a belief that control over the situation or its outcomes is impossible.Helplessness beliefs can be either universal (i.e., there is nothing that anyone can do) or personal (i.e., there is nothing that I can do).

Here are some quotes on Helplessness:

There is an old joke about someone trying to get to Carnegie Hall and he spots another man carrying a violin case. He asked “Sir, how do I get to Carnegie Hall? The other fellow smiles and says, “Practice, Practice, Practice.” As Greek Philosopher Aristotle once quipped “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Anything worthwhile takes consistent practice, staying committed to the process, and showing up daily. We get rewarded in public, for what we repeatedly and diligently practice in private. Whether it is becoming a prolific best-selling author, olympian, public speaker, entrepreneur, actor, musician, or whatever you want to become, it requires practice. It is often said that “If a person will spend one hour a day on the same subject for five years, that person will be an expert on that subject.”

Perseverance is the act of continuing in a course of action even though it is difficult, without regard for opposition, discouragement or previous failure. When times get tough like they sometime would, it is always tempting to throw in the towel and give up. Whether it is learning a foreign language, starting a business, running a marathon or learning a programming language, the tough times don’t last but the tough people do. I have tried to learn a foreign language, start multiple businesses, run multiple marathons (11+) and learn various programming languages (Python, Javascript, Java). The common denominator with hard concepts or activities is that, you have to persevere the tough times through deliberate practice, seeing the end in mind and continuously show up daily.

Here are some great quotes on perseverance:

  • Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other. – Walter Elliot
  • Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did. – Newt Gingrich
  • If four things are followed – having a great aim, acquiring knowledge, hard work, and perseverance – then anything can be achieved. – A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
  • No one succeeds without effort… Those who succeed owe their success to perseverance. – Ramana Maharshi
  • It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop. – Confucius
  • Failure is often that early morning hour of darkness which precedes the dawning of the day of success. -Leigh Mitchell Hodges

The best way out is always through. -Robert Frost

  • Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure. -George Edward Woodberry
  • Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don’t have the strength. -Theodore Roosevelt
  • Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody. – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
  • The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one comes from a strong will, and the other from a strong won’t. – Henry Ward Beecher

It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer. – Albert Einstein

  • A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying. – B.F. Skinner
  • Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air. – John Quincy Adams
  • The most essential factor is persistence – the determination never to allow your energy or enthusiasm to be dampened by the discouragement that must inevitably come. – James Whitcomb Riley
  • Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained. – Marie Curie
  • If you wish to succeed in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius. – Joseph Addison
  • Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. – Calvin Coolidge
  • Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure. – Benjamin Disraeli
  • In the realm of ideas everything depends on enthusiasm… in the real world all rests on perseverance. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  • Failure after long perseverance is much grander than never to have a striving good enough to be called a failure. – George Eliot
  • If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. – T. S. Eliot
  • Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. – Dale Carnegie
  • Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacle s, discouragement s, and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak. – Thomas Carlyle
  • Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. – Thomas A. Edison
  • Success depends upon staying power. The reason for failure in most cases is lack of perseverance. – J.R. Miller
  • Let me tell you the secret that has led to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity. -Louis Pasteur
  • Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. – Winston Churchill
  • Consider the postage stamp: its usefulness consists in the ability to stick to one thing till it gets there. – Josh Billings
  • What counts is not necessarily the size of the dog in the fight – it’s the size of the fight in the dog. – Dwight D. Eisenhower
  • Winning isn’t everything, but the will to prepare to win is everything. —Vince Lombardi

All the Best in your quest to get Better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.

Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either. – Aesop

The truth is the property (as of a statement) of being in accord with fact or reality. As the  King James Bible says “And You Shall Know the Truth and the Truth Shall Make You Free”. As UK former prime minister Winston Churchill once quipped “The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is.”

The Blame Game started at the garden of Eden, Adam blamed Eve for eating the apple, Eve blamed the snake and the snake had no legs. It is human nature to blame: we blame the government, parents, childhood trauma, education system, siblings, spouse, and everybody else except ourselves. As J.K.Rowlings, author of the Harry Potter series once quipped: “There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, the responsibility lies with you.”

There is an expiry date for blaming everything except ourselves. Life is tough and it happens to us all; hence we have to take personal responsibility for our life at some point. We all play the blame game: we blame our spouse for the divorce, our boss for the job loss, the government for the bad economy, our parents for unresolved childhood trauma, ourselves for our mistakes.

Here are some great quotes on Blaming:

  • There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. – J.K.Rowling
  • All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.- Wayne Dyer
  • Blame is the demonstrated lack of self-respect choosing to deposit one’s negative actions onto others to reinforce one’s view of being of good, fair, and approved. – Byron R. Pulsifer
  • Don’t argue for other people’s weaknesses. Don’t argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it- immediately. – Stephen Covey
  •  Blaming others is nothing more than excusing yourself. – Robin Sharma
  • It’s always easy to blame others. You can spend your entire life blaming the world, but your success and failures are entirely your own responsibility. – Paulo Coelho

People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.George Bernard Shaw

  • Blaming is so much easier than taking responsibility, because if you take responsibility, then you might be to blame. -Jennifer O’Neill
  • If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month. – Theodore Roosevelt
  • You are not a failure until you start blaming others for your mistakes. – John Wooden
  • Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. – Erica Jong
  • To find fault is easy; to do better may be difficult. – Plutarch
  • The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on. – Robert Bloch
  • Your failures won’t hurt you until you start blaming them on others.– Zig Ziglar
  • He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived. – Chinese Proverb
  • When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself. – Deepak Chopra
  • The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions. – Dwight Eisenhower
  • Democracy is the process by which people choose the man who’ll get the blame. – Bertrand Russell,
  • The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.— Albert Ellis
  • People may fail many times, but they become failures only when they begin to blame someone else. Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.— Oscar Wilde
  • We reap what we sow. We are the makers of our own fate. None else has the blame, none has the praise.— Swami Vivekananda

Fix the problem, not the blame.— Japanese Proverbs

  • Blame no one, Expect nothing, Do Something – Bill Parcells
  • Blaming something else makes that something else cause; and as that cause takes on power, the individual in the same act loses control and becomes effect.– L. Ron Hubbard
  • You can get discouraged many times, but you are not a failure until you begin to blame somebody else and stop trying. – John Burroughs
  • Stop blaming other people and circumstances for killing your dreams. The truth is; we tend to talk ourselves out of acting upon our dreams. Most dreams die of suicide, not murder. — Steve Maraboli
  • Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you. – Ralph Marston
  • You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstance, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of. – Jim Rohn
  • An irresponsible person is a person who makes vague promises, then breaks his word, blames it on circumstances, and expects other people to forgive it. – Ayn Rand
  • An ignorant person is inclined to blame others for his own misfortune. To blame oneself is proof of progress. But the wise man never has to blame another or himself.  – Epictetus

Life is like a camera. Focus on what’s important. Capture the good times. And if things don’t work out, just take another shot.”.

  • The search for someone to blame is always successful. – Robert Half
  • Blaming things on the past does not make them better. – Nelson Mandela

All the Best in your quest to get Better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.

Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. Shame is a deeply troubling emotion that lead people to lie, manipulate, project, and even shame kill.

Healthy shame is the psychological foundation of humility. It is the source of spirituality.” – John Bradshaw

Top Quotes on Shame

  • Shame is the emotion which gives us permission to be human. Shame tells us of our limits. Shame keeps us in our human boundaries, letting us know we can and will make mistakes, and that we need help. – John Bradshaw, Healing the shame that bind you
  • Guilt, of course, is feeling bad about one’s actions, but shame is feeling bad about oneself. – Greg Boyle

“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” – Carl Jung

  • Humans have long used shaming as a weapon to preserve social order and cohesion; indeed our brains are hardwired to register shame. – Shaili Jain
  • Those events that once made me feel ashamed and disgraced now allow me to share with others how to become a useful member of the human race. – Bill Wilson
  • The difference between guilt and shame is very clear–in theory. We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are. – Lewis B. Smedes

Shame is a particularly acute risk for mental illness. – Nicola Gates

  • Live in thy shame, but die not shame with thee! – William Shakespeare
  • Shame is like everything else; live with it for long enough and it becomes part of the furniture. – Salman Rushdie
  • The way out of shame is to own it, and go on being your best, showing up rather than hiding because of it. Don’t let shame own you and keep you small. – Debra Campbell
  • Shame regulates differences, creates secrets, builds up a charge. The counterforce and antithesis of shame is desire, which with all its being seeks to eliminate differences, to do away with secrets, release tensions. – Karl Ove Knausgaard
  • Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself. – Anais Nin
  • Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn. – Benjamin Franklin
  • Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough. – Brene Brown

Shame is an ornament of the young; a disgrace of the old. – Aristotle

  • Shame is always easier to handle if you have someone to share it with.-Craig Thompson
  • Shame should be reserved for the things we choose to do, not the circumstances that life puts on us.– Ann Patchett
  • It is the false shame of fools to try to conceal wounds that have not healed.-Horace
  • You cannot really shame a man who sincerely does not care what others think of him.-Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.-Brene Brown

  • Shame is an attachment to negative self-perception that has been fostered by the perceptions and opinions of others. Shame is a wasted sensibility. – Devon St. Claire
  • Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame. – Benjamin Franklin
  • Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.– Rumi
  • Guilt is “I made a mistake, I did something wrong.” Shame is “I’m a mistake, something is wrong with me.” At the core of our wounding is the unbearable emotional pain resulting from having internalized the false message that we are not loved because we are personally defective and shameful.— Robert Burney

The problem with shame is that we have absorbed incorrect conclusions about ourselves, based on the past actions or reactions of a trusted loved one. These conclusions tend to be quite intense and persistent, with a nagging voice that they are the ultimate truth, and anything else we tell ourselves is just a lie to make ourselves feel better. – Jackson MacKenzie, Whole Again

  • Therapy is one of the safest of all places to bring your shame. But faced with lying by omission or confronting their shame, they may duck out altogether. Which, of course, solves nothing. – Lori Gottlieb,  Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.-John Barrymore

Regret is the emotion of wishing one had made a different decision in the past because the consequences of the decision were unfavorable. We regret our decisions, choices (choice of mate, education, career, parenting). Regret feels bad because it implies a fault in personal action: You should have done it differently, hence self-blame is a component of regret (Connolly & Zeelenberg, 2002).

In her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, Australian palliative caregiver Bronnie Ware, documented the top regrets of her dying patients, their insights on living, their dying epiphanies, and their top regrets.  According to Bronnie Ware, there are 5 top Regrets of the Dying:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Here are the top 30 quotes on regret:

“To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life is a roller coaster of challenges: sometimes you win and sometimes you learn (loss). Author Earl Nightingale defined success as the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal. Sometimes you are up and other times, you are down. The key to happiness is to never let Success get into your head and never let failure get into your heart.

midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle-aged individuals, typically 45 to 65 years old. The phenomenon is described as a psychological crisis brought about by events that highlight a person’s growing age, inevitable mortality, and possibly lack of accomplishments in life. 

Top 30 Quotes on Midlife:

  • Midlife is the time to let go of an overdominant ego and to contemplate the deeper significance of human existence. – Carl Gustav Jung
  • Midlife is about surrendering things that no longer matter, not because our lives are in decline, but because they’re on an incline. – Marianne Williamson
  • You know you’re getting old when you stoop to lie your laces and you wonder what else you can do while you’re down there ~George Burns
  • Midlife crisis begins sometime in your 40s, when you look at your life and think, ‘Is this all?’ And it ends about 10 years later, when you look at your life again and think, ‘Actually, this is pretty good. – Donald Richie
  • If you live your life all out today, not only is it fun, but you are preventing a midlife crisis. – Daphne Oz

“Midlife is missing out not just on other lives but on the meaning for one’s present life of having them as options.” –  Midlife: A Philosophical Guide by Kieran Setiya.

  • Most of us abandoned the idea of a life full of adventure and travel sometime between puberty and our first job. Our dreams died under the dark weight of responsibility. Occasionally the old urge surfaces, and we label it with names that suggest psychological aberrations: the big chill, a midlife crisis.- Tim Cahill
  • Turn your midlife crisis to your own advantage by making it a time for renewal of your body and mind, rather than stand by helplessly and watch them decline. – Jane Brody
  • Midlife: when the Universe grabs your shoulders and tells you “I’m not f-ing around, use the gifts you were given. – Brene’ Brown
  • Midlife is the time to let go of an overdominant ego and to contemplate the deeper significance of human existence. – Carl Jung
  • You know you’ve officially hit a midlife crisis when you finally start feeling like you have your life together and your body starts falling apart! – Tanya Masse
  • Midlife is when you reach the top of the ladder and find that it was against the wrong wall. –Joseph Campbell
  • Midlife is not the time to disenchant ourselves. It’s a time to turn on all our magic in full force. – Marianne Williamson

“Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research.” – Carl Jung

  • Middle age is not the beginning of decline, but a time to reach for the highest in our selves. Middle age is a pause to re-examine what we have done and what we will do in the future. This is the time to give birth to our power. – Frank Natale
  • Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. – Paulo Coelho

All the Best in your quest to get Better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.

Empathy is our ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Empathy enables us to become aware of other people’s perspectives, emotions, worldview and experiences. The word empathy is derived from the Ancient Greek ἐμπάθεια (empatheia, meaning “physical affection or passion”).

Top Quotes on Empathy:

Mindfulness is the practice of purposely bringing one’s attention to the present moment without judgment, a skill one develops through meditation or other training. The need to stay mindful and present can not be over-emphasized in our present age of always-on, tweet, sharing, and clicking world. We are busy doing nothing, running, chasing fame, the thrill and dopamine rush of vanity metrics such as likes, retweets, reshares, material things and we forget to stay in the moment, focus on the here and now. Mindfulness enables us to stay on the focused on what really matter.

Writing is a medium of human communication that involves the representation of a language with written symbols. Writing is a form of self-expression that can be used to express thought, ideas, musings, rants, entertain – you can either write what is worth reading or do what is worth writing about. Writers, write, bloggers blog and creatives create. The hardest part of any creative process like writing is starting: You do not need to be great to start but you have to start to be great.

Here are the top 30 quotes on writing:

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